Thursday, November 18, 2010
Why I stopped watching Jon Stewart and why you Should too
Friday, October 15, 2010
Apathetic Activism starts out with a pathetic act
Social media in general has done a lot to spread information, spur debate, and help (real) activists coordinate their efforts. I am not saying that it is all bad. I am saying that it is mostly bad.
Americans, by and large, are lazy, fat (in every sense of the word), procrastinators that have perfected the art of being lonely together. If one could ask us all at once what the definition of us was and what we stood for, the response would be a cacophony of blubbery sighs, stupid Family Guy jokes, and old movie quotes until it eventually died down and we settled on “whatever the last generation was but, you know, like, uh better, like philosophy two-point-oh but with more (faux) ironic sarcasm”.
It is no surprise that Social Media has allowed the Haves of America to perfect the art of Slacktivism. People click a button to somehow donate rice to some people in some other country SPONSORED BY CORPORATION and automatically display it prominently so everyone can see how “involved” they really are, or as if that wasn’t pathetic enough, change their profile pictures to show solidarity for whatever cause is trendy at the time because it is literally the least they could do while circle-jerking and trying to prove they have accomplished something.
What is worse? People going on a fucking vacation to “help” whatever tropical place had something recently terrible happen to it. Demanding that someone shelter them and feed them and acclimate them and waste enough time and resources as possible just before packing up, going home, and positing pictures all over the place talking about how it touched them and how it was just so sad.
None of this is activism.
Someday, I hope to become a real activist. You can fucking bet that it’s not going to involve retweets and hash tags.
Monday, September 27, 2010
Expanding the focus of this blog
Also, I had to turn on comment moderation because I tried to argue about race on the Internet, and a bunch of idiots came a long and made asinine comments. I will never reject a serious comment.
Speaking of comments, for some reason, some comments were caught up in the automated anti spam software. I have disabled that. If you do post a comment, and it doesn't show up right away, please email me cynnik@gmail.com and bother me about it. I am going to work on a general commenting guideline page this week as well.
If you would like to contribute to this, please let me know. I can set up you up with a regular account and you can post away, or if you'd prefer to contribute a one-off, I am fine with that as well.
-Ken
Thursday, September 9, 2010
The Little Things
Saturday, September 4, 2010
White Defensiveness
"How can you say all white people are privileged? Aren't there poor white people? Aren't there rich minorities?"
This is one I've heard a good few times, and really underlines the difficulties with using the term privilege. For a lot of people, when they hear privilege, they immediately think of it in terms of class, and in that case it's difficult to accept the suggestion that white people are privileged when there's no shortage of white people who are lower class or impoverished. However, comparing a wealthy person of color to a working class white person isn't really a fair comparison when looking at the issue of racial privilege. An easy way to think of it is like this: imagine a working class white person and a working class person of color. They both will have issues that they need to deal with that arise from their class. However, the person of color must deal with other issues that arise from their race, such as reduced job opportunities or differential treatment by law enforcement as some examples. Racial privilege refers to the fact that the white person does not have to deal with these, or that if they do they can be reasonably sure that their race was not a factor.
"Why are we paying so much attention to race? If we just let all this be, it would resolve itself. We're only making it worse by bringing race up all the time."
It should be pretty obvious what's wrong with this viewpoint. Ignoring problems, especially racism, does not make them go away. At best things stay the same, but what's more likely is that things manage to get even worse because this attitude breeds a sense of complacency and "it can't happen here!" regarding all but the most blatant examples of racism.
This kind of viewpoint really demonstrates privileged thinking; a white person can say "oh let's just ignore all this talk about race and be colorblind" because if they do, they are not harmed by it. In North American society, there is no ingrained instiutional racism towards white people that needs to be addressed. They can suggest that race should not ever be brought into the discussion because they are not the ones who directly suffer from institutional racism's continuation.
Anything that uses the phrase "white guilt" or anything along the lines of "Sorry for being white!"
Now here's one I'm sure we've all heard before, and around this point we're getting out of the territory of uninformed and into the territory of casually racist jerkwad. Here the implication is that the goal of anti-racism is to make white people feel bad for no other reason than being born white, and so this gem gets whipped out as a shaming technique. When used against a white anti-racist, it implies that they are somehow ashamed of their own background or a race traitor of sorts who wants to score brownie points with people of color by feeling bad. When used against a person of color, it's an effect similar to the one I talked about with the attempt to make the term "racist" into a slur. It attempts to paint the person of color as an aggressor, and as the true racist.
Here's the thing though. I couldn't care less if white people felt guilty or not. If they do, that's their perogative, but it doesn't accomplish anything. What I want is not to have my experiences with racism denied or written off as oversensitivity. What I want is an acknowledgment of the effects of institutional racism, and for people to speak out against it. What I want is to not be expected to bite my tongue when people start spouting out casual racist bullshit about how my race are a bunch of lazy alcoholics who have the government as their personal genie, and not to be told "I'm one of the good ones" as if I should feel so fucking honored that a white person considers me acceptable and as if it makes the rest of what they said not racist. If you view that as me just wanting to make you feel bad as a white person, then that says a lot more about you than me. As anti-racists, we're not telling you this stuff to be jerks, but because it's a serious issue that should matter to you; don't take it personally.
"But I have a (insert race here) friend who's okay with me saying stuff like that!"
Let me clarify this one for a moment. I'm not referring to the case where someone tries to act like they have a free pass to say racist things because they know people of color (and I'm willing to bet that half the time it's not even true.) We all know that's a load of crap, and why it's a load of crap. What I'm referring to are the people who get caught saying racially insensitive things or making racist jokes and try to explain it away by saying that they have a friend of that race who they can say that around without them getting offended. Listen, everyone has their own boundaries regarding that sort of thing. Yes, some people of color have friends where they will exchange barbs about race as just part of the whole friends ripping on each other deal.
However, just because it's cool within your circle of friends, where you know each other well and have a certain level of comfort around each other, that doesn't mean it's cool outside your circle of friends. For example, just because your black friend is cool with you, his white best buddy making the occasional racist joke, that doesn't mean that another black person who isn't your friend will be or that your black friend will be cool if a white person who isn't your friend says those kinds of things. Even then, don't write off the possibility that they're tolerating it for the sake of keeping the peace; I've been there before, and it's a shitty situation. But even assuming that's the case, think of it this way: You wouldn't think it's okay to talk to a stranger the same way you would when you're playfully trash talking your friends when it comes to non-racialized insults, so you sure as hell shouldn't think it's okay when it comes to racialized trash talk.
"You just can't handle different opinions!"
There's few ways of handwaving racism that piss me off as much as this one. "Being racist is just an opinion! What kind of uptight jerkwad do you have to be to have a problem with differing opinions?"
I'm gonna spell this out real clear. Having a racist opinion is not on the same level as "oh you like chocolate ice cream but I like vanilla, oh well, live and let live" regardless of whatever attempt to trivialize it as such and it takes a lot of privilege to even try it. Having a racist opinion means thinking less of someone and doing harm to them because they aren't the right color. It is not an opinion worthy of respect, and people who hold those opinions are not worthy of respect either. Which leads into...
"So much for tolerance - you're intolerant of my bigotry!"
When you're dealing with someone who pulls this gem out, there's no more doubt that maybe you're just dealing with someone who's ignorant; they're a full blown racist regardless of whatever denials they try to put forth. This is an attempt to paint themselves, the bigot, as the victim in all this. Why, for all your talk of tolerance, you're being prejudiced towards them! The poor little racist who never did any harm to anybody!
My response to this? Guilty as charged. I am intolerant of intolerance, and I think to not be is an act of cowardice. When you willfully throw yourself in to bigotry and racial hatred, you are supporting the harm and dehumanization of people of color. The proper response to people like this is to call them out and oppose them whenever they want to spew their crap. Expose them for what they are to mutual friends, employers, and social groups, and to ostracize them. If we don't want racism to be acceptable, we all need to treat it as unacceptable.
Friday, September 3, 2010
"Deleted" comments
I have not intentionally deleted any comments, but what probably happened is that I suck at the internet and while messing with formatting of particular posts, may have stripped comments away somehow.
I will state right now that I will never remove any comment, nor will I edit any comment for it's content.
So, yeah, sorry if it looked like I did.
Thursday, September 2, 2010
Pious Ideologues
“Reading your blog has been just another reminder that people like you are not to be taken seriously. It was foolish of me to even post in that thread and to reply to you where everyone could see what we had to say to each other.
Pious ideologues like you will be ignored, not just by me, but by the silent majority of all people of all skin color who know better than to be suckered into an outdated culture war. Blather on about "white people black people doo doo doo" all you want, maybe even convert a few gullible idiots. But you are irrelevant.”
Monday, August 30, 2010
The R-Word
Everyone knows that there is no shortage of denialists when it comes to racism. They’re the folks, many of them not necessarily malicious people, who believe that racism ended so many years ago when that Martin Luther King guy they kinda learned about in high school talked about having a dream and racial inequality across the western world just vanished into thin air. They’re the folks who only see racism when it’s coming out of the mouth of a guy in a white hood whose family tree is a straight line, or a guy with a shaved head who’s perpetually unemployed because most employers don’t agree with him on how kickin’ rad his swastika facial tattoos are (though they are typically rightfully outraged about this type of racism). They claim to not even see race, because well shucks, if they noticed it than that would be more racist than anything! They’re the folks who cluelessly accuse people of color of oversensitivity when they comment that the Tea Party has a bit of racist streak. They are typically white, though every now and then you have a person of color who has “made it” (either through hard work, other social privileges, or a combination of the two) and thinks that dammit, if I could do it then every other person must be able to as well!
If some of that sounds a bit harsh, I apologize, because I don’t think that most of the people in this category are bad people. They absolutely are misguided, and the denial of racism is the biggest reason that it is able to continue and grow. However, even as a person of color myself, it’s hard to hold much of a grudge against them personally when they’re buying into the depressingly common and incorrect notions about racism that are continuously repeated and held up to be correct (the colorblind one especially). That said, even if they aren’t all bad people, having a discussion with them regarding the continued existence of racism and privilege is still challenging. They’re essentially being told that their “common sense” view of race relations is entirely incorrect, and that they are privileged when many of them may feel that they have not lead a privileged life at all. So naturally, they tend to get very defensive and as anti-racists, we want to get past that.
So, if you’re someone who wants to maintain a system of white privilege, then you want to encourage white defensiveness and feed the notion that anti-racism is about attacking people for being white. So you go one step further than saying that people who complain about racism are just oversensitive; you tell people that they are the REAL racists. You take the term racist, and transform it into “the R-word”, a slur against white people. This does three things: the first is that it puts the person standing up to racism on the same level as the previously mentioned skinhead or KKK member. When you’re dealing with people who believe that this is the only form that racism takes, then you must be just as bad as them, and therefore someone worthy only being ignored at the least and scorned at the worst. Secondly, it appeals to the denialist’s sense of victimization. As I’ve mentioned, people tend to get defensive when you talk about racial privilege, either because they do not view themselves are privileged and assume that you are making light of their own hardships, or because they believe that you are suggesting they are somehow undeserving of their situation. Start telling people that the person talking to them about racism is the real racist, though, and you can add “hates you for being white” onto that list as well.
It is the third effect that is the most sinister, and it is that it silences and disempowers people of color. As a person of color, when I point out to a white person that something they have said or done is racially insensitive, ignorant, or just outright hateful, they have the choice of whether to listen to me, to dismiss me, or to declare me oversensitive. This is what white privilege is; the ability of a white person to ignore or heed the perspectives and feelings of people of color as they see fit. In spite of this, the ability to call out racism is the one way that we are able to defend ourselves if we find ourselves in a hostile environment. By turning this act of defense into an act of aggression, and turning the perpetrators of racism into victims, we are effectively vilified and silenced. Racist comments and thinking go unopposed, because to do so would make us the real racists. We cannot call it for what it is, because we must dare not use the “R-word”.
Glenn Beck’s rally was more than just metaphorically pissing on MLK’s grave, it was a celebration of this notion that anti-racists are the only true racists. It isn’t the first time this sentiment has reared its ugly head; the vilification of the NAACP during the Shirley Sherrod fiasco because of the laughter heard in her heavily edited speech also demonstrated it, and up here in the Great White North a letter to one of my city’s major newspapers decried the injustice of the “R-word” and was snarkily agreed with by the editorial board (also the inspiration for the title of this piece – guess racists can be good for something!).However, the celebration of that sentiment on such a large scale should be of great concern to anyone who’s even cared about racism in passing. If anti-racism is successfully vilified then we can expect not only to not progress when it comes to racism, but to go backwards. Let’s make sure the “R-word” is the one slur we’re willing to use.
Thursday, August 26, 2010
Spoon-Feeding a Big Baby their Medicine
It’s important to state a few things up front.
First, if a person of privilege does or says something racist or sexist out of hatred, they have created a hostile environment that anyone in their right mind would and should call out and be offended by and are right in reacting with equal hostility. Their reactions are their reactions, and to try to tell them they are wrong in their reactions is at best deflectionary, and at worst an overt attempt to subjugate them and dominate them from the position of power. The only thing that is wrong is the initial sentiment that sparked the reaction in this exchange.
Second, it’s not a person of lower privilege’s job to educate the person of privilege on what they said was wrong or terrible. We are the people of privilege. We have the means to open a book, use our brains, or even use Google. People of lower privilege are not exotic creatures to be studied; they are people.
Third, if a person of lower privilege tells you that what you said is racist, sexist, whatever, you should just shut up and listen. You are a person of privilege. How can you possibly tell someone who is being oppressed that they are not being oppressed. Sure, there are exceptions here. In all my research, I could only find one.
Here is a hint: you are not ever going to be in a situation like this. Shut up and listen.
Taking into account everything previously mentioned, if you say something ignorant one of three things will happen:
- You get called on it. Someone tells you in a matter of fact way what you just said was ignorant. You sincerely apologize, and perhaps ask for further clarification. This is the best-case scenario. Here is a real life example- Once I used the term Mulatto to describe someone of mixed race. Someone told me what I said was racist and explained Mulatto translated roughly to half-breed and that I shouldn’t use it. I apologized and never used the term again.
- You get called on it. Someone tells you off, you get defensive, they storm out of the room, or you storm out of the room (and the white people go running after ) Real life example- I once said that dressing up in blackface for Halloween was not offensive ( I was a fucking idiot, clearly). Someone took offense and called me on it. I told them that it wasn’t offensive and they were being oversensitive. They got madder. They left.
- No one says anything, either because of fear or group ignorance.
If you say something stupid, you deserve nothing more than reaction number 2. Someone throwing the hostility of the situation you had just created back into your face. Reaction number 3 happens too often, and reactions number 1 is yet another example of privileged people’s privilege.
People of lower privilege, I am sorry that something else to worry about is being tossed on your plate. There are times when you will have to strongly consider reaction 1. I’m not talking about some asshole you hear on the bus, but someday, someone you really care about is going to say something ignorant, and they will be unable to respond to anything but spoon-fed medicine.
It sucks and I am so sorry.
-Ken
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Boo Fucking Hoo
Hello. My name is Ken. I am a 26 year old white heterosexual male.
I am so sick of white people complaining about how tough it is to be white.
What made me start this blog? I have been learning a lot over the last year or so what it means to be on the privileged side of society, and how badly us white folk are straight up fucking over everyone else to keep it that way. I've had to walk away from most of the people I called friends because they were on the wrong side of everything. All this has been building and building over the last year, but most recently, today I read the following news story:
NYC cab driver stabbed because he is Muslim
To sum it up, a man asked a cab driver in NYC if he was a Muslim, and the driver responded in the affirmative. The passenger then said in Arabic “Consider this a checkpoint” and proceeded to stab the driver in the neck and face and arms with a Leather-man.
Fucking awful. Shocking, but not that surprising considering all of the race-baiting xenophobia being manufactured in that city currently because them durn moslems r building a terrorist assembly line on the graves of dead 9/11 victims.
This was not enough for me to get pissed off enough to start writing about it.
What I do when I hear about terrible things like this, is go to other blogs and forums that are center-right to all the way batshit Libertarian nutjob land and see how they are reacting to whatever bit of terrible that comes up on one of my many news aggregators.
What I found on Free Republic was just so infuriating that I had to get up and walk away from my computer:
“This is a hate crime....hundreds of black youths attacking white folks at the Iowa State Fair is not....that is all....”
Boo Fucking Hoo. If I had to describe white people in four words: “FUCK YOU, GOT MINE”
It's Dr. Laura complaining about having to worry about a “special interest group” when she goes on a racist rant where the usage of the N word more than 10 times IS THE LEAST RACIST PART. It's Sarah Palin, her fucking stupid followers, who encouraged “Dr.” Laura to reload rather than retreat (totally oblivious to the fact that Sarah Palin and those white people whipped up into a froth recently lost their collective shit over someone else on the other side ((the side that wants to make everyone gay and force abortions on grandma)) said the word retard). It's Glenn Beck and his group of idiots who are flipping out over an Islamic Community center in Manhattan and how it's so fucking insensitive when, not even pausing to take a breath in between, extoll and promote the fact that they are going to have a rally on the Lincoln Memorial on the anniversary of Dr. King's “I Have a Dream” speech.
It's all this bullshit. All of it that makes me embarrassed to be a white male. While all this bullshit is going on, just FIVE years ago, we all sat and watched as all the brown folks down south get left for dead during Katrina. We watched cops shooting the colored people that were “looting” food because the white people in power were too busy patting each other on the back for a job well done on getting all the rich white folks out in time.
I am sorry this is so all over the place, I am just really pissed off.
I guess I'll just leave the three people that will read this with one thought:
Rich, powerful white men became rich and powerful and stay that way because they learned a long time ago to teach the poor, powerless white men to be terrified and hate the even poorer and even less powerful brown men.
Hopefully, I'll calm down a little bit over the next few days and put something coherent together.
-Ken